Becoming ethical is not about always being good, perfect, priestly, or dogmatic. It involves representing key moments in your life and choices. Ethics requires a vision mediated by memory: an internal theater where moments can be replayed and rehearsed.
In those moments of vision and re-presentation, you have the opportunity to enter into the thoughts of other people—the people who you literally faced, encountered—in a way that might not have occurred to you in the original moment.
Ethics is about learning from regret, navigating the dialectic of sin and grace.
I don’t think it’s about getting things right from the beginning, in perpetuity.
I don’t believe in predestination.